Woman ends friendship after years of unpaid loans to entitled friend, Sarah, who recently requested $1500 for a "medical emergency" that just happens to coincide with Spring Break: 'I asked for details about the emergency, she got defensive'

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    Woman with money and a smartphone
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    Friend treats me like an ATM, and I'm done lending. Time to set boundaries.

    I've had a friend, let's call her Sarah, who's been hitting me up for cash for years. At first, I was happy to help her out in times of
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    need. But over time, it's become a pattern. She'd ask, I'd give, and she'd never pay me back. I'd get vague promises of repayment, but they'd always fall through.
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    The final straw came when she asked me for $1,500 to cover a "medical emergency" that somehow coincided with her
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    spring break plans. I asked for some details about the emergency, and she got defensive, saying I was being
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    nosy and didn't care about her well-being. That's when I realized I'd been enabling her entitled behavior all along.
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    I told her I'd help her brainstorm ways to cover her expenses, but I wouldn't lend her any more money. Her reaction was
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    shocking, she got angry, saying I was abandoning her in her time of need and that I wasn't a true friend. It was like she genuinely
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    believed I owed her money just because we're friends. I'm starting to wonder if our friendship has been a one-way
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    street all along. And on thr brighter side, I've learnt a good lesson off it
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    TheQuarantinian I hope you said "medical emergency, huh, I am very sorry that this means you won't be able to go on spring break and post pictures about all the fun you would have had. I'll be happy to help you out - just bring me the bill from the doctor's office and I'll pay them directly."
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    Delicious-Swimmer826 She's not a friend, she thinks you are her personal piggy bank. Do not ever give her anything.
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    The words 'Spring Break' written in the sand on the beach
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    stringstringing Lending money and being taken advantage s ks, that being said you allowed this. The first time they asked for more money without having paid back their past debt and you said yes, you fed up. I've had a couple relationships
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    Pixoholic This can go both ways "Hey girl, I don't have $1500 to give you. Actually, since you're a real friend can you give me $100 to help pay some bills? Great, thanks!"
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    IDGAF53 Yah..medical emergency.. she needed to get to a tropical beach..all that stress....
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    Weeping Willow_Wonka She's mad bc she was depending on you to fund her spring break trip and now that you're standing up for yourself her funding plans are falling through...
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    MmaRamotsweOS Being treated as an ATM means they never considered you a friend.
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    More_Mind6869 If you wanna lose your friends, lend them money. Just ask for it back and you'll never see em again. Lol
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    mechshark Tell her that you're not giving her anything unless she pays you back. She's not a real friend she's just gonna disappear
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    PhilosopherSad123 you are considered a sugar daddy without the benefits
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    AmbitiousSugar4939 Duh.
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    mougrim Check how much she owes you already. Present her with sum. Say you are generous, so she can deduct 1500 bucks she needs from the total. *She'll never return it anyway, so at least have some fun.
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    InternationalPilot90 Welcome to the club of the former biodegradable ATMs. 101: Dont give a 2nd "loan" as long as the 1st loan is still open. 102: Oh, I'm a bit tight right now. Means: " Lender " hasn't even bothered to set some payback aside. Conclusion: Leechburg, not friend. Ditch

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